HERE’S AN OPPORTUNITY for YOU to BEHAVE  DECENTLY, COURTEOUSLY and EMPATHETICALLY

for a CHANGE 

Shaw Kenawe’s Husband Has Passed Away.  Regardless of Any Political Differences We Might Have, I Regard Miss Shaw as a Friend, and Posted the Following at Progressive Eruptions as 

Soon as I Heard the Sad News.

The beautiful Shawe Kenawe and her husband-to-be in 1977

Dear, Shaw, 

I am so sorry your most important relationship has come to such a sad, untimely end. I hope these words by our special friend Emily Dickinson may help you as you struggle to gain a better sense of perspective on life that must seem senseless and unrewarding at times like this.

While I was fearing it, it came —

But came with less of fear

Because that fearing it so long

Had almost made it fair —

There is a Fitting — a Dismay —

A Fitting — a Despair 

’Tis harder knowing it is Due

Than knowing it is Here.

The Trying on the Utmost

The Morning it is new

Is Terribler than wearing it

A whole existence through.

~ Emily Dickinson (1830-1886)

I offer too these words from Carousel by Oscar Hammerstein II, whom I have come to regard as one of our finest lyric poets, despite his enormous popularity.  He understood the human heart very well, and expressed his wisdom gently, kindly, with good humor and great empathy for the human condition in words most could easily understand, bless him! 

What's the use of wonderin' 

If he's good or if he's bad,

Or if you like the way he wears his hat?

Oh what's the use of wonderin' 

If he's good or if he's bad

He's your feller, and you love him

That's all there is to that.

Common sense may tell you 

That the endin' will be sad,

And now's the time to break

And run run away

Though common sense may tell you 

That the endin'will be sad

Your his gal and he's your feller

There's nothin' more to say.

Somethin' made him the way that he is

Whether he's false or true

And Someone gave him the things that are his

One of these things is you

So, when he wants your kisses

You must give them to the lad,

And anywhere he leads you, you will walk

And anytime he needs you ––

You'll go runnin' there like mad ––

You're his gal and he's your feller,

And all the rest is talk.

I wish I could offer more. I believe you still have my phone number. If ever you feel a need to talk, –– even in the middle of the night –– I'd be glad to listen.

You were a beauitful couple when you married. I know you produced beautiful children.  I hope those good memories will help sustain you  as work through this period of grief.

Love,

FreeThinke

Shaw's husband in later years. May he rest in peace.

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